Surely you have asked yourself this question at some point: how to revive a relationship that is stagnant? All (or almost all) of us have been there at some time, and that is why it is one of the great classics of the sentimental offices, but the health crisis that we lived last year (still today) confined millions of couples in a space and the problems surfaced.

However, there are some tips that can help you anticipate. Journalist Nell Frizzell, from the British media The Guardian, has collected 10 recommendations, not only from experts, but also from ordinary people who have survived long relationships.

1. Lower expectations and be kind
Maybe, in the middle of a crisis with your partner, you despair and throw your hands on your head, but think that this is also the result of the conception of romantic love. Relationships go through these moments, and instead of getting into defensive mode, lower your expectations of the situation and be kind and proactive to solve it.

2. Take care of the details and the way you talk
A certainty supported by many specialists: couples do not usually break up because of big dramas, but because of small gestures. Discussions that get out of hand. It is important that you learn to discuss (and to stop when you do not get anywhere to resume later). And of course, recover the simple details that made you fall in love.Obviously, infidelity with third persons such as female escorts are more than likely to end the relationship.

3. Go to couple's therapy in time
Another thing that everyone who knows about couples therapy explains: don't go too late. It is usual that couples go to a specialist when there is not much to do beyond managing a breakup in a civilized way. Think of it like going for a medical check-up: even if there are no major problems, go and share your fears.

4. Get into bed and see what happens
A key misunderstanding of couples in crisis: sex. Sex also serves as a reflection of the stumbles outside the bed. If things don't work outside, they won't work inside either. Nevertheless, try to lose the fear of awkwardness when chemistry has suffered. Think about intimacy beyond orgasm and intercourse.

5. Flirt with other people
This will sound awful to most traditionalists, but if proposed by mutual agreement, it can be an interesting turn-off. What if you go to a bar or nightclub and flirt with others? It will allow you to remember what is attractive about you and feel observed by independent call girls, and observing what attracts others to your partner will remind you why you fell in love in the beginning.

6. Do things separately (every day)
An important aspect we've learned especially in the pandemic: we shouldn't be together all day. We run out of things to tell each other, and we leave aside all the other pillars of our life: hobbies, friends... Practice hobbies separately and make plans separately as well. You will not disappear.

7. Be proactive and don't get complacent
Nell Frizzell talks about it as a way to feel the fear of the breakup, of the unknown. It's hard to explain, but she gives the example of a couple that not getting married helped them not to take things for granted. Does that make it any clearer? Be proactive in your routines and in your communication. Comfort kills couples.

8. Accept (and promote) change
There are couples who have been together for a couple of years and believe that they will not be able to maintain this stability for many more years, but this is false. Relationships, just like people, evolve over time. Do you lose some of your chemistry? Fight to get it back. Will you stop liking each other? There are ways to work on that. Accept change, it's intrinsic.

9. Spend quality time
It is a cliché, and one of the most accurate, that you can apply to your relationship as a couple and to those of friends, family ... It is not the same to devote time to dry, that devote quality time, and that must be proposed actively (the concerns do not always leave us). And we are not only talking about appointments, but also about going shopping.

10. Be intuitive and let yourself go
The best manual on how to revive a stagnant relationship is you, who are in it. This does not mean that you do not resort to therapists when necessary, but no one knows better than you what are the details, moments and values that made you fall in love. Trust your own intuition and let yourself go. Always be proactive.