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Kim Chernin, a feminist author and counselor who wrote with compassion about female body dysmorphia and its cultural causes, as well as her own upbringing as the daughter of a fiery Communist organizer jailed for her beliefs, died Dec. 17 at a hospital in Marin County, California. She was 80.
Her wife, Renate Stendhal, said the cause was COVID-19.
Chernins mother was Rose Chernin, a labor organizer and Communist Party leader who was convicted with others in the McCarthy era of attempting to overthrow the government. (The government would also try twice to deport her to her native Russia.) In 1957, in a landmark case, the Supreme Court overturned the convictions, ruling that merely encouraging people to believe a certain doctrine was not a crime.
It was a seismic moment for the country, and for Roses daughter, who wrestled to define herself in relationship to her mother the Red Leader, as the newspapers liked to call Rose instilling in the younger Chernin a lifelong aversion to publicity.
In 1980, Chernin was an unpublished poet when Ticknor & Fields bought her book The Obsession: Reflections on the Tyranny of Slenderness. The manuscript, seven years in the making, had been rejected by 13 publishers.
Anorexia and bulimia were little-discussed disorders at the time; on college campuses, however, there was an emerging crisis among young women, and when Chernins book appeared, she became a sought-after speaker on television and on college campuses. The book, which had a limited first print run, sold out quickly.
Obsession was the first of what would be a trilogy about womens appetites and identity. In it, Chernin wrote of her own obsession with her weight and her attempts to equate food with nurturing. She used a variety of lenses cultural, feminist, anthropological, spiritual and metaphorical to explore why so many women felt alienated from their bodies.
Many of lifes emotions from loneliness to rage, from a love of life to a first falling in love can be felt as appetite, she wrote. And some would explain the obsession with weight in these easy, familiar terms. But there are deeper levels of understanding to plumb. That night, for example, standing in front of the refrigerator, I realized that my hunger was for larger things, for identity, for creativity, for power, for a meaningful place in society. The hunger most women feel, which drives them to eat more than they need, is fed by the evolution and expression of self.
She argued that the physical ideal for an American woman was a mans body lean and wiry rather than soft and rounded and if that was so, she asked, what did that say about society?
There is a poetic truth at the heart of The Obsession, Christopher Lehmann-Haupt wrote in his New York Times review of the book in 1981.
Eloquently written, passionate in its rhetoric and consistently absorbing, it turns an apparently trivial subject inside out to reveal unacknowledged attitudes and prejudices. We Americans probably do worry far too much about fat and its appearance. Perhaps Miss Chernin is right when she argues that the problem is not the shallowness of our perceptions, but rather, the depth of our feelings.
Elaine Kusnitz, known as Kim, was born on May 7, 1940, in the Bronx, New York. Her father, Paul Kusnitz, was a structural engineer educated at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology; her mother, Rose Chernin Kusnitz, who went by her maiden name, had graduated from high school early and worked in a factory to support her parents and sisters.
Both of Kims parents were Russian-born Jews and committed Marxists, and before Kims birth they returned for a time to Russia, where Paul Kusnitz worked on plans for the Moscow subway.
When Kim was 4, her older sister and caregiver, Nina, died of Hodgkins lymphoma, and Rose moved the family to Los Angeles and began working as an organizer there, championing farmworkers and housing rights for her Black and Latino neighbors.
Kim grew up attending Communist Party rallies, at first in her stroller. From a young age she read Marx, Lenin and accounts of the trial of the Scottsboro Boys, the nine Black teenagers falsely accused of rape in Alabama. Kim fought bitterly with her mother, whom she also revered.
At the Yiddish school sponsored by a left-wing Jewish organization she briefly attended, Kim quacked like a duck when spoken to in that language. Yet when her mother was imprisoned for five months when Kim was 11, she was disconsolate. And when she wrote her 1983 memoir, In My Mothers House, weaving her own story with that of her mothers, she captured her mothers distinctive, Yiddish-inflected voice: You want to fly? Grow wings. You dont like the way things are? Tell a story.
Chernin studied English at the University of California, Berkeley, where she met David Netboy. The two married, had a daughter, Larissa, who survives her, and soon divorced. Her marriage to Robert Cantor also ended in divorce, after which she took her mothers maiden name as her own, as did Larissa.
Chernin met Stendhal, a journalist and author, at a cafe in Paris. Together since 1985, they married in 2014. They were collaborators and editors of each others writing and the co-authors of Lesbian Marriage: A Love & Sex Forever Kit, among other books.
After Obsession, Chernin published nearly 20 books, but her distaste for publicity and marketing deepened as she grew older, Stendhal said, and her last writings were donated directly to her archive at the Schlesinger Library at Harvard University.
Chernin, who was in psychoanalysis for 25 years and began counseling women with eating disorders after Obsession came out, earned her doctorate, as did Stendhal, in the mid-1990s in spiritual psychology, which blends spiritual teachings of all faiths with conventional psychotherapy.
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